Thursday, October 30, 2014

What to do When Your Husband Cheats On You ?


Well...

What to do.. 

It could be anything.. I always feel that as long as your husband/partner is not a drug addict or abuser (kaki pukul), he is still a good husband. Still acceptable to remain by your side or in the house. And we should be grateful that he is not in the 2 categories. But what about womanizer? Main kayu tiga behind your back? Or perhaps the husband who never pays nafkah to the wife presumably that he can't afford to give or the wife is fine with that situation.

I am not here to judge. My marriage is far from perfect. I am just here to express my feelings. And I am not trying to be an expert in marriage thingy. 

I do have single lady friends who are happy with their single life. Certain yes.. Certain not. No, they are not lesbians. Being single doesn't mean you are alone.

Recently, my friend (female friend) told me how his husband cheats on her. Being secretive just because the husband worried that the wife would get upset and furious. It was not the 1st time that, she had to tolerate with such behaviour. This may sound silly or petty problem to you but you know what.. I always believe, there shouldn't be any secrets between husbands and wives. Be it minor or major. Kecil-kecil itu ok la.. Macam pergi makan nasi ayam tengah hari tak bagitau, ok je kot. Kot tetiba tak bgtau pasal lunch nasi ayam lepas dia tu dia tau dan kena marah, tak tau lah.. mungkin dia pun ngidam nak makan nasi ayam jugak. 

So, back to my friend. Her husband has a habit of borrowing money from friends. Mind you, first thing in mind you would think that's ridiculous BECAUSE his paycheck is huge than us average employed, drives an expensive car (at least to me since the monthly installment is triple from my car) and as for their baby, the wife has been forking out her own money for the baby's expenses and the household items. They don't even own a house yet. When he was asked what did he do with the money, he had no words. He just said he had no idea. Owh.. By the way, he did give nafkah to the wife. The wife has been managing his debt payment ever since REMINDER LETTERS arrived their place. Turned out that he had few personal loans and credit card up to RM80K in total. And no.. not even a single gift for the wife (for giving birth to a baby boy.. at least). *sigh.

What the wife did? She took out her savings to settle all the late payment. But then I guess, that's what all wives would do. We do our best for the husband even we do expect not a small appreciation would be given by the husband. And yes.. It's a fact. Because he did it again. She was thinking of having a divorce before it becomes worst like probably later on bila dah tak da kawan nak bagi pinjam duit, the husband pergi pinjam kat along pulak. Who knows. *touch wood.

But then, she has a baby to think of. Hmm.. You know what.. 

The worst part is.. 

I can only listen.

It may be different situation to you out there.. Have some faith.. Allah S.W.T is always with you. Keep telling yourself that. I know it's not nice to share your marriage problem, but I'd prefer listening to my friends problem rather than leaving them alone. Kita tak nak tetiba, satu hari, terbaca pasal kawan kita dah bunuh diri dalam surat khabar. Lepas tu menyesal sebab, we're not there when she needs us the most. 


This is just my thoughts.. How I feel.. and how you feel about this issue might be different.
Let's not be judgemental. 

Peace.



Friday, October 24, 2014

Letting Go : Bokitta | Chic Printed - Jungle Leaves




For your size reference.


I am selling off my one of my own personal collection of Bokitta.
Condition : Excellent.
Material : Chiffon with cotton voile lining.
Reason : I prefer voila maxi type.
I bought at RM 109. Letting it go at RM80 (poslaju inclusive)

Sold !!!

Thank you.



Thursday, September 11, 2014

Skip Hop | Pronto! Changing Station


I have just received a Skip Hop Pronto! Changing Station today. I was supposed to receive my lil boy new stroller too but somehow that particular seller didn't reply my WA this afternoon. Apparently she was like a reseller. Well that's what I thought since the supplier was the one delivering the item. Never mind. Let's just hope I shall receive the item tomorrow. FYI, it has been almost 2 weeks delay. 

Moving on.

I just think I have to had this Pronto changing station since I don't like to bring my school-bag-like diaper bag when I go out. My husband should have acknowledged the existence of Storksak or Skip Hop before buying the bag. As for the time being, my diaper bag a.k.a my office bag is Longchamp medium size. 

So, let see..

The size when it is folded is 7.7" x 12" x 1". It has zipper compartment outside to put your small items and also a transparent case for your wipe. 



I purchased this item from D'wana Shopz. She has a FB page called ERGObaby Carrier & StorkSak  Malaysia (Authorised Retailer)

I tell u. She is one of the best seller I have ever met. I always like online seller who has very good discipline/attitude throughout the buying process. I normally 'malas' to ask questions like 'When are you going to deliver the item' or 'Have you delivered the item since I have not received it yet' or 'Could you kindly provide me with the details of the delivery'. I do not want to sound like a fussy/annoying buyer. 

And yes.. I do understand how hard it is for working-at-home-mum to reply our text a.s.a.p. But still if it has been delayed for weeks and the item is not cheap (I make prompt payment as always) and you didn't make any effort to update your FB page/ Instagram etc, I think any customer would turn into annoying buyer. 

Back to the Skip Hop Pronto Changing Station.

How big it is?



I think my lil boy's bump can fit onto it since it is quite huge. 

And best of all, it fits into my bag.



Go visit D'wana Shopz

FYI, she is a WAHM and currently 7 months pregnant. So have some patient if she does not reply your message after 5 minutes. Based on my own experience dealing with her, it was never disappointing yet. So, if you are looking for any items from Storksak, Ergo carrier or Cosatto etc brands, kindly proceed to her page.

Cheers.


p/s - As usual, this is my own personal review and the item is bought with my own money. 


Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Modern Mosquito Net a.k.a Kelambu Moden


Assalamualaikum..

No idea whether that was the correct name for it but I just translate 'kelambu moden' directly. 

My lil boy's face and ears before was fill with red spots. Mosquito spots. But thank goodness those mosquitoes are normal mosquito. Thank goodness. I watched them closely (after I killed them) and there's no zebra line at their body at all. That should be a good sign right? Many people commented on my lil boy's red spots with.. "Kena gigit nyamuk ke?" .. "Tak tidur dalam kelambu ke?" I know I'm going to be sarcastic here since I felt all those questions make me look bad. Mari bersangka baik, these people were concern. No.. Not you my friend. You don't text me after this asking whether it's you or not ok. But I do appreciate your concern. I don't really mind with people asking but it's just how they ask it. Get it? 

Never mind. Let's forget about that.

These are all after I found Ridsect-spray and mosquito-repellent-electric type were no use.

So, in order for my lil boy to get his cute-clear face back, I purchased mosquito repellent patch. Actually I bought them way before but somehow it didn't work. By saying it didn't work, I mean when I woke up in the morning, my lil boy will still get additional red spots. I bought from 3 brands - Tiger Balm, Guardian/Watsons (I check later) and Mozzy. They smell like lemongrass. 

Then, I bought the Aedes Buster from Khind. It cost me RM126. 


This Aedes Buster works fine by trapping mosquitoes in it. When my husband asked my how it works, I explain to him - Nyamuk tu akan terperangkap di dalam dan terlekat di getah kat bawah dan terhidrat lalu mati. Get it? He sure gets it but with frown. My lil boy still gets red spots btw. 

Then I remembered seeing somewhere about mosquito net. I didn't want the hanging type so opted for this. Found this modern type (as people claimed it) at lelong.com.my. It is bottom part partially covered so it can fit any mattress regardless how thick it is. That's what I thought. I purchased from seller name Cosimo (no.. that's not their name) and turned out they are the best seller ever I have ever met. I purchased the wrong size and requested for an exchange. They sent it out the next day even though I haven't returned it yet. Please do not take things for granted. And of course I paid for the differences (diff size, diff price).  



It turned out the best solution ever although it's quite 'leceh' to come in and out from the bed. But we do our best for our children right? So yeah.. That's the story of our journey battling with mosquitoes. 


p/s - This is my personal review. I purchased everything with my own money.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Have Some Respect...

Assalamualaikum...

Entri kali ini adalah luahan hati dari aku.. Mengandung for 40 weeks.. Overdue few days before my bundle of joy greeted the world. BARU jadi mak selama 7 bulan 7 hari.. Alhamdulillah.. 

Before I continue, I would just clarify few things..
  • I am beyond grateful for Allah S.W.T. has given me a cute little boy.
  • I am deeply thankful to my mother who willingly sacrificed her time to come over and stay with me all this while to take care of my little boy.
  • I am grateful that my dad didn't really complain about being left alone at home. T_____T .. 
  • I am just grateful that I am still here and stronger to keep on living despite any obstacles that keep on coming. Bring it on!! 
So, here it goes.. Rojak ya entri ni.

Aku pegang satu je kadang. Jadi mak nie hati kena kering. 

Contoh.. Bila orang dtg dekat cakap nak dukung anak aku. This happened once when I was at Guardian, Jitra. I was contemplating but still I pass my lil boy to the staff, knowing that she won't be running out of the store. I pray hard my lil boy to cry in the stranger's arm but no.. He didn't. Alhamdulillah everything turned out fine. It happened again for the 2nd time when I was at Gold Coast Morib for my dept.'s family day. The staff asked politely to carry my lil boy and this time I managed to decline. Waktu tu rasa muka palsu sgt sbb bagi sebab pun mcm tak yakin. I should just say no firmly next time. 

My lil boy has started his solid food regime eating at 5.5 months. My mother suggested to make porridge for him. Mak aku macam pelik kalau kita buat 'puree' bagai ni. Aku terus pergi beli Little Bean food processor sebab nak kena blend bubur dan takut kalau mak aku bg makan bubur camtu je. Nasib la mak aku nie ok je ngan anak dia ni. 

Aku selalu dengar cerita pasal orang lain yg rajin bagi makan kat anak orang lain. Rajin itu bagus. Tapi pada aku, biarlah bertempat rajin tu. Habis sopan dah ni aku taip. Aku pernah la jugak nampak makcik sumbat makan kat anak org lain. Tapi aku bersangka baik dan anggap mak budak tu tak kisah. TAPI, aku semestinya tak mau anak yang disumbat makan tu anak aku. Biasanya bila org offer nak bagi anak aku makan, aku segan silu ckp tak per.. atau.. aku diam saja buat2 tak dgr. Selalunya aku buat tak dgr lah. Sebab aku bukan pandai pun. Kang dia jawab balik anak dia dah berapa dia bg makan hidup je, dah aku tak tau nak jawab aper. 

Biasa bila aku dengan husband aku, aku mmg abih sopan la jawab. Satg malu pulak laki aku dgr bini dia jawab. Sebab bila dia pulak x puas hati, nnt dia bisik je kat aku dgn harapan aku la yg tegur. Nak nampak tak elok, aku jugak. Kalau ngan mak aku pun sama.. Satg kang ada ckp mak aku tak pandai ajar anak dia pulak. Realiti kan? Ayah aku? Ayah aku rilek je. Dia tau anak dia camna. Satg dia tolong back up baik punya. 

Prinsip aku senang je. Ko nak bagi burger kat anak ko yg umur 7 bulan pun aku TAK KISAH.. Anak orang lain, baik ko tanya dulu mak dia. Macam aku cakap td..Rajin tu biarlah bertempat. Takkanlah orang sibuk jual dadah, engkau pun nak rajin tolong org tu jual dadah.. Ader kaitan? Takder abaikan. 

Aku rasa habis baik dah aku taip entri nie. Kalau ada yang terasa, aku pun tak tau lah. Pandai2 lah bawa diri. Dulu rasa macam keji sgt bila over protective ke over paranoid ke towards my lil boy. Aku punya rasa bersalah sebab tak pandai teran - kena pakai vakum sampai skang kot.. kuar2 kepala panjang. Tu pun rasa mcm aper tah. Lps tu bila baca kisah org lain yang anak dia meninggal sebab sakit etc, aku terus pikir.. Aku pun tak tau berapa lama Allah S.W.T nak bagi pinjam Umar kat aku. So, I just don't care. I do what I want to do. Itu je lah harta aku. 

Mohon faham. Faham sikit pun jadi. Sebab aku rasa husband aku pun bukan faham sgt. 





Friday, July 18, 2014

#PrayForMH17




Who knew it could be our last journey. 

Al-Fatihah

PrayForMH17

"This is a tragic day, in what has already been a tragic year, for Malaysia"-PM

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Review : Ramadhan Tex-Mex Buffet at Frontera


It is Ramadhan again!! Today is our day 5th of fasting and hopefully everyone is enjoying Ramadhan and grab all the opportunity of doing good deeds more. For those who like to visit Bazar Ramadhan would definitely love Ramadhan simply because it means food galore month. Alhamdulillah. Prays to God for being able to be here again to experience Ramadhan. 

Last 2 weeks, I had a chance to try Ramadhan Tex-Mex Buffet at Frontera, Jaya One. Their menu includes starter, main dishes and dessert. Let see what Frontera has to offer.

Starters

Mushroom & Chipotle Soup with Homemade Herbed Croutons
Carne Asada Taco (beef)
Yutacan Prawn Taco
BBQ Wing with Cilantro Ranch Dressing
Beef Taquitos with Salsa Verde & Sour Cream
Mexican Rice
Baked Potatoes with Parmesan Cheese




Mains

For mains, you can choose one menu from the attached list. 


I always go for chicken and beef but then my friend and I was like, why not we tried fish tonight. 
So, presenting...

Fabulous Fish Burger. One of the mains. We love it. I would definitely recommend to you to try this one. 

Maple Glazed Salmon. Perhaps for Salmon lover, you would love this one. If I have to opt, I would choose the burger. 
Yes. I eat fat. 

Dessert

Chipotle Chocolate Brownies
Fruita de Crema
Mexican Flan
Banana, Chocolate & Marshmallow Chimichanga

Dessert.. I always wait for dessert.. Even sometimes most of the time, the first thing I would eyed was desserts.


The desserts' texture was quite dense as compared to the normal that I usually had. For example, the Mexican Flan was really thick and creamy (I think those 2 words described it correctly. Correct me if I'm wrong). I would compare it with our 'caramel pudding'. Normally I can eat more than 1 piece but perhaps I ate much before till I forget to save some space for desserts. Blimey. 



Notes:
  1. The menus (starters, mains & dessert) will change periodically. 
  2. We will be increasing the number of starters to 12 & dessert to 6, but remaining main course options to 12. 
  3. Prayer room is available.
  4. Ice Lemon Tea is free flow 
  5. For every group of 8 pax, 1 dine for free (e.g. 7 pay, 1 free)
  6. Customised menu is available for groups of 30 & above. 
  7. Menu price: RM 50++ (RM 58nett)

For more info/inquiry/reservation you can refer here:
  1. Frontera Sol of Mexico
  2. 83-G.2, Block E, the Square, Jaya One, 72A, Jalan Universiti, 46200 PJ. 
  3. 0379588515 or 0122928096 (Ramesh)
  4. info@fronterabar.com 
  5. http://www.facebook.com/fronterabar
  6. Reservation is a MUST 
  7. Attached are the maps



Please take note. Frontera is a pork free restaurant. The meat is halal, but they serve alcohol beverage. 

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